THIS TOO WILL PASS:-Eckhart Tolle’s story told, so very beautifully extract from his bestselling book “A New Earth”

According to an ancient Sufi story, there lived a king in some Middle Eastern land who was continuously torn between happiness and despondency. The slightest thing would cause him great upset or provoke an intense reaction, and his happiness would quickly turn into disappointment and despair. A time came when the king finally got tired of himself and of life, and he began to seek a way out. He sent for a wise man who lived in his kingdom and who was reputed to be enlightened. When the wise man came, the king said to him, “I want to be like you. Can you give me something that will bring balance, serenity, and wisdom into my life? I will pay back any price you ask.”
The wise man said, “I may be able to help you. But the price is so great that your entire kingdom would not be sufficient to pay for it. Therefore it will be a gift to you if you honour it.” The king gave his assurances and the wise man left.
A few weeks later, he returned and handed the king an ornate box carved in jade. The king opened the box and found a simple gold ring inside. Some letters were inscribed on the ring. The inscription read. This too will pass. “What is the meaning of this?” asked the king. The wise man said, “Wear this ring always. Whatever happens, before you call it good or bad, touch this ring and read the inscription. That way you will always be at peace.”
This too will pass. What is it about this simple words that makes them so powerful? Looking at it superficially, it would seem while those words may provide some comfort in a bad situation, they would also diminish the enjoyment of the good things in life. “Don’t be too happy, because it won’t last.” This seems to be what they are saying when applied in a situation that is perceived as good.
...this story points to the fact of impermanence which, when recognised, leads to nonattachment. Non-resistance are the three aspects of true freedom and enlightened living.
Those words inscribed on the ring are not telling you that you should not enjoy the good in your life, nor are they merely meant to provide some comfort in times of suffering. They have a deeper purpose: to make you aware of the fleetingness of every situation, which is due to the transience of all forms- good or bad. When you become aware of the transience of all forms, your attachment to them lessens, and you disidentify with them to some extent. Being detached does not mean you cannot enjoy the good that the world has to offer. Infact, you enjoy it more. Once you see the transience of all things and the inevitability of change, you can enjoy the pleasures about the future. When you are detached, you gain a higher vantage point from which to view the events in your life instead of being trapped inside them.

Riri's back!!!!!!*super scream!!!!*

I have the biggest unexplainable girl crush on two artists: Solange Knowles and Rihanna.Solange for her song writing abilities and kooky sense of style and Riri for her fierce sense of style (coz lez-bi-honest she aint that amazing musically).I like to think if I had the money Id end up with a style thats a fusion of the two,some gothic inspiration mixed with lots of colour,funky designs and artsy fartsy heels.
Both have been quite silent lately but Riri is finally releasing her next album called "Rated R" on Novenber 23rd which means more "good girl gone bad" videos and crazy outfits!!!Im so excited!!!!She's released two promo pics and I am in love!!!!

Apple vs Mac?

Im not the biggest tech junkie but I do appreciate a reliable computer.Due to financial limitations I've had to be content with PCs my whole life though I wouldn't mind taking a bite out of the Apple. So far, apart from its constant freezing, overuse of resources and its incompatibility with most programs my Vista has been working perfectly,lol.Mostly I just like the fact that its pretty. I dont do anything heavy duty with it so Ive never felt the need to go back to XP.
However Windows 7 imminent arrival does not excite me at all even though we've been told its lighter and better than Vista. My uncle installed the beta version on the desktop at home and it seemed fine but I just can't be bothered to try it to be honest. Plus Im a little peeved that I was forced to get Vista which came with my laptop and now they decide to release an OS they claim is better than Vista and of course to change to 7 Ill have to pay out of my ass,ugh!
Anyway I stumbled across these Apple ads that piss on Windows 7/Microsoft,woohoo!!!!Im all for it!!!

Best Before (insert date here).

Time has the uncanny way of making certain experiences stale.
I met my ex the other day and seeing him prompted a confused look to creep on to my face.I was thinking what did I like about him again?He's short and odd and we have nothing in common at all!!!I spoke to him for about 10 mins and a minute after I left him he wasn't on my mind anymore.But at the time we dated his appearance would get me all giggly and I'd be in heaven if he touched me.But 3 years later and he has no effect on me.Stale.
On Facebook I was found by two of my ex crushes.One from Primary school and the other from High school.
I had the biggest crush on Patrick in Primary,sigh.We danced together at my Std/Grade 6 disco,lol.I was so excited dressed in my Mini Mouse skirt and matching top.But alas it was like a Cinderella story...I went home straight after our dance and there wasn't enough time for us to kindle a love affair given that our final school term was ending.In my mind all these years he's been this magical tall guy I danced with in High School,I saw him on Facebook and in my head I heard the sound of shattering glass.Dream destroyed.He's not so fantastical after all.Stale.
In high school I destroyed my reputation (at least it felt that way at the time,lol) and self esteem over Michael.Sigh,Michael.I couldn't get enough of him.We shared classes together and I sat in front of him and his friend in maths,my favourite class of the day!His hair was the biggest deal about him.He had this wavy hair which was way cool for a black guy back then.I'd huddle with my dorm mates during prep time and we'd discuss our crushes,lol!It seems so stupid now.Sometimes the other girls would play love songs and hug their teddy bears and sometimes even cry,hahahahahahahaha!!!!My apologies if any of them read this but they looked like lunatics!!
Then during one of our many talks they convinced me to just bite the bullet and tell Michael how I felt about him and got me thinking yeah,he could like me back!So I went to him after dinner one day and said "Michael I have the biggest crush on you and I just think you're so hot!" He kinda just stared at me for a second and said "ummm ok thanks". Then for the remainder of the term he did his best to ignore me which was weird cz he sat behind me in maths.On top of that somehow everyone found out about it.sigh.I was so embarrassed and upset.Couldn't wait to leave the school!But now all that seems over the top and ridiculous.He looks nothing like the image I had in my head at the time.He's practically a different person.He's a nice guy though but I'd never be romantically attracted to him ever again,that I know for sure.Stale.
So today I was thinking about my Bestie and I'm wondering whether I'll think he's stale in a few years and I wonder if I'm stale to any guys out there,lol.I guess it just proves that people do change over time.My tastes have changed and their personalities have evolved.

Koop Island Blues....

In another life I would have been a dancer, contemporary dancer specifically.I love it!!Hiphop dance is cool and all but I love what contemporary dance does to the female body,plus the flexibility you gain.If I could just drop everything now and go to dance school I would!What I would give to be taught by Mia Michaels!She is a genius!Brilliant artistic mind!So sad that she's no longer on so you think you can dance.Hope she comes back,I love her choreography.
The clip above is of a routine that she choreographed on the show in season 5 and I just adore its cheekiness,lol.For reasons that will become evident after you've watched,its known as "the butt dance".She said it was a classic French inspired tale of two "cat and mouse" lovers.I think she interpreted it perfectly,Tom and Jerry immediately sprung to mind when I was watching it (but of course Tom was never in love with Jerry,lol,that would have been a bit weird), or the french movie "Priceless".I love the song she chose too;Koop Island Blues by Koop.
Maybe one day I shall buy a one way ticket to the U.S and enroll in some Dance school,but until then I shall save up for ballroom dance classes here and keep my dancing dreams alive by watching shows like these....sigh.

Hopeless romantic...

OMG,im such a mushy creature!!!
I was reading some article on MSN called 25 little things you do that guys secretly love link: 25 little things...
Im the type of girl that gives little excited yelps if i get flowers or I unintentionally go into a soft baby voice asking "are you sure?awwwww baby!" if he buys me something I wanted but didnt think he would get it for me,lol!
I love romance!sigh.

Graduation Weekend,good times!

So the festivities are over,back to reality.
The graduation ceremony wasnt as bad as I'd thought it would be,kept myself entertained during the boring parts by chatting with a friend of mine.After the ceremony had lunch with the parents,my sister,cousins and my uncle at Primi-best place for pasta!sigh, i could do wit some pasta right about now....
In the evening I had dinner with some friends at News Cafe,I didnt actually eat though,I got a little too carried away taking photo's and drinking so by the time we needed to order I was waaaaay too tipsy to eat,would've probably ended up throwing up.
Afterwards we went to a friends house for poker.I was too exhausted to join in though and went home after an hour or so.I met my ex boyfriend too,this world is waaay too small!!!Turns out he knows my male friends from high school.He's the same though,hasn't changed a bit.Talks the same,same height,same accent and I bet he kisses the same too (his awful kissing was the reason I dumped him,lol!)
Twas nice to see my mummy again,she was so happy she baked 3 cakes for me and my cousins.Its only Thursday and 2 of those cakes are practically finished,lol,my mummies a beast in the kitchen!She also made some super nice chicken which had all of us asking for her recipe.When Im brave enough Ill try replicating her chicken.
So all in all it was a good weekend,had fun.
Gotta go do some work now,mwah!

Im a b*&%$# in the morning....

Im going crazy,have been for the past few days.
Im panicking about everything and anything and worrying at the same time,disgusting combination!Ive been driving Bk up the wall with my endless pouting and sulking and as always Im wondering how he hasn't gone mad himself.Instead of telling me to get lost he's called every night and tried to make me feel better.*blush* Lucky me.
So why am I worried? Im graduating this weekend,my research paper was accepted for the research conference thingy at University which means I have to find funds to attend the conference,prepare for the presentation and prepare a short biography.My graduation has created humungous headaches for me. The shoes my cousin sent aren't here yet and might not get here in time because there was a postal strike in the UK plus she fears the shoe might be too small.Go figure,that would just be friggin fantastic.
I spent the better part of the week running around looking for a dinner dress and again I am reminded why it sucks to be in Africa!!!!Lots of casual clothes here but nothing for special occassions,unless your aim is to look like a beauty pagent contestant.
So I decided ufck it,Ill ho it out (shout out to Amber Rose!) this time and bought a long top that shall serve as my dress for the night,lol,Im shameless!But Ill do it with self respect,I will make sure I dont bend over or sit without my legs being crossed.See?Self respect!
My biggest problem though is my amazingly over inflated expectations.In my head this weekend is supposed to be super duper fantastic! At first I wasn't excited but then I let myself get excited and now Im just worried my expectations won't be met and so far thats the way things seem to be headed.crap! Ah well,Ill find other reasons to celebrate in my life so Ill just try and make the most of it.

[This totally has nothing to do with the post but my cousin keeps talking to me tho I have headphones on and Im clearly busy typing somethin....weird.I say "hmmm" or nod every now and then,lmao!Im evil]

♫♫na na na na,na na na na,hey hey hey,gooooodbye!!♫♫

Lmao!I love the title of this post!!
Ive lost a friend,and frankly I couldnt care less!
And given the way my former friend handled the situation that brought us to this point,they couldnt care less either,so I guess all is right with the world.
Ive actually almost reached the point of indifference,hahahahaha!!Who'd have thought it would end like this?smh.
Not long ago we were up each other's a-holes,lol!sharing this and that,partners in crime and homies to the death.Now it just seems stupid that I even gave away that much trust.
I think we were in lust (lol,friendship lust),which I have come to find is as fleeting as the pleasure it brings.
Im still slightly angry/hurt though.I have moments,just moments,where Im speaking to him but thinkin "UFCK YOU!!!" and come dangerously close to saying it,lol.Cz I feel stupid for believing the act.Ah well,he cant fool me twice.
But at the end of the day,its all good.At least he has enough integrity to not go putting all the stuff I spewed in private on blast.
Yeah we had good times and he held it down when I needed a friend a couple of times,but I must remember that its not just your good actions that are testament to your character, your bad ones are too.
So off I go humming: "na na na na,na na na na, hey hey, gooooodbye!!"

Artist of the week...music to my eyes.

Im a big fan of art generally,whether it be paintings, drawings or photography.I tend to gravitate towards the more deviant/erotic genre though,lol.My wallpaper collection mainly consists of lots of tastefully drawn half naked girls (I think so anyway), a variety of pictures with gothic elements and anime art (Im very intrigued by asian and gothic culture).So I have decided since I have the time, every week I'll endevour to find an artist an put up a pic or two by them.I'll start with my absolute favourite;Luis Royo (shown above).He's a spanish artist as the name suggests and does alot of dark fantasy art and most of them are either paintings or sketches.I came across him about 4 years ago through Bk who had a massive collection of erotic fantasy wallpaper.(I blame him!)
I cant imagine what a conversation with Luis Royo must be like or what goes on in his mind given some of the art that he has created,.He definately thinks outside the box!If you're interested in seeing more of his work follow this link: Luis Royo Fantasy ,be warned some of his stuff is quite explicit!

Behind every successful man there is a woman...

It seems, from looking back at all romantic relationships I've been involved in and that I have witnessed, that the men tend to be the ones dictating the course of the relationship(not always but most of the time).
I suppose that can be attributed to the fact that we've been raised in patriarchal societies where we've been told men are the leaders,protectors and providers of the family unit and therefore when in a union with a man,a woman's role is one of support.For example there is a saying that goes: Behind every successful man there is a woman.
So I personally have always believed that I should support my significant other to help him become the leader that he needs to be.And of course I know some men also do the same for their female counterparts nowadays though its still a relatively new concept for the man to play a supporting role to a womans life.
I have no problem with women playing a supporting role to their significant others however what I don't like is when men abuse that privalege.Yes it's a privalege.Because more often than not supporting someone involves some compromise on your part.A simple example is one of my parents;my mother had to quit her job just when she had qualified to receive extra benefits from her employers and leave her friends to follow my father to a new country because he wanted to find better oppotunities for his career.Now of course he was doing this for the benefit of his family and we are happier now but my mother has had to abandon her career and become a housewife.She supported him and also compromised her goals for the bigger picture.
Now some men are selfish but still expect your support.They want to take time for themselves,tend to their own happiness,disregard your needs and still expect to have you waiting for them when they are done searching their souls.
What differs from woman to woman is how much she can put up with before she decides what she can't compromise on.I used to think I had to go all out,be that woman that will follow you to the ends of the earth to prove her devotion to you but I think it's time to redefine my boundaries and increase my list of things I cannot compromise on.Some women will put up with verbal or physical abuse,cheating,disrespect,disloyalty,stupidity etc hoping that one day this man shall wake up and see what an amazing supportive woman he has.There needs to be a balance,do not compromise more for your partner than he'd compromise for you.Because one day you'll wake up and wonder why the hell you're feeling so miserable and your life is spent making his comfortable.I refuse to see that happen to me.I will still be supportive and I will compromise but Im setting some standards and expectations that make me happy that I expect to be fulfilled.And if they are not met then Ill cut my losses and move on.Life's to short to spend it living for someone else.